Observe and Subtract
Over the last week or so, I have been paying attention.
Just paying attention…Sounds easy?
I have been paying attention to exactly how I am reacting to certain situations, especially ‘bad’ ones or situations that perhaps don’t go my way.
Those moments when somebody speaks to you in a way that you do not like, when people display aggression or are rude and it is just so easy to react in the same way and before you know it, you are in a conflict. A conflict of ideas, emotions and words.
You know those times when somebody really gets into your head and annoys you for the rest of your day? You end up having arguments in your head with them even though they can’t hear you! Mental, right? Or maybe it’s something physical like when somebody bumps into you on the street or knocks you off your bike.
So these are especially the types of situations I have been paying attention to and instead of reacting, I have been responding. Taking a moment, taking a breath, and formulating a response with calmness and clarity instead of aggression and rage. And do you know what I have found? I am the one who comes out the better for it, as I can then let it go. I am the one who ultimately benefits.
When we meet aggression with aggression it just grows. When we meet it with compassion it somehow melts away. And ultimately that it is compassion towards your own state of mind.
I have been paying attention and some of the conflicts I have seen between others have flared up instantaneously over people afraid that they don’t have enough… Enough room, enough time, enough space. I have seen reasonable people shouting at each other in the street because they are simply reacting to the perception that somebody is taking something from them and there is not enough to go round. There is always enough. It is when we let go a little we can see a little clearer.
So next time you find yourself in one of those situations maybe try it.
Observe and Subtract- observe & take away whatever you need to learn from that situation without losing your cool or your state of mind. Don’t give it away, but let go.